I am an outgoing introvert.
Sometimes, people don’t believe me when I share this because apparently all introverts are supposed to be incredibly shy, awkward around people, and reserved to ourselves. I can be outgoing, yet desperately need alone time, too.
I feel that many people can’t understand that. They think you’re either one (extroverted) or the other (introverted). Oftentimes, people see the completely, inarguably extroverted side – like leading a discussion at work or sharing opinions about a topic –because that’s the personality side that gets the most attention. The other side of me, the side that stays home and reads all day, doesn’t get any public attention.
Extroversion and introversion doesn’t have the be polarized. It’s a spectrum – you can be anywhere along that continuum. For some, like myself, we happen to be very close to the middle of the scale, and we can even flip-flop between being more reserved or more sociable. Yes, I know it’s confusing.
Now in month 4 of this grand adventure, I am solo traveling. Although companionship would be nice, here are a few reflections on the realities of solo travel.
Sharks and Lions are Scary! But People are Not –
While traveling domestically or internationally, I have faith that people are people, and we all inherently want to connect and be kind, no matter which arbitrary lines we’ve drawn in the sand to denote different geographic city or country borders. People desire to connect, to help, and to welcome people.
It’s MY Schedule
Solo traveling allows me to self-indulge in the events I alone chose to do. The highs and the lows are because of my own decisions. When I inevitably make a mistake – like driving 45 minutes in the wrong direction towards a National Park – then it’s my day to salvage and to declare it a learning experience. Being lost if just the beginning of something new.
Grabbing a Meal
I actually enjoy eating alone at a restaurant, in a café, and especially while outdoor dining. In fact, sitting alone with a book at a café isn’t as unusual as a table for one at a fancy restaurant. I’ve found service people – like waitresses – to be some of the best local chatters around. And, I’ve found it’s important to celebrate the solo sit-down meals with a decadent dessert or fancy cocktail, even when experiencing alone.
More Compassionate
The mere fact that I can afford – and desire – to travel means that I am lucky and fortunate. In my opinion, wandering to new places is the very best way to expand appreciation new cultures and peoples. Traveling allows you to understand other people, gain broader perspectives, and gain greater compassion.
Understanding Yourself Better
Strengths, weaknesses, interests, and passions: these all become clear as you travel alone. I’m more adventurous, capable, independent, and knowledgeable, because of these experiences.
Life is too precious to wait for someone else to join your adventure.
Just go.
Love this so much Kyle! I am similar but more towards extrovert! But love my alone time and am definitely both at my so choosing 😀
So happy you two met up on your travels